Subtitle: Reconciling the tension between my faith and festivity for Christmas

Excerpt: Reconciling the tension between my faith and festivity for Christmas

Author: Dave Hallmon

Christmas, as celebrated in America, is not a command from God. Nowhere in Scripture are we told to commemorate Christ’s birth with trees, lights, or gifts. For some, this leads to statements like, “I’m not Christian, so I don’t celebrate Christmas,” which reflects how much the holiday has evolved into a cultural phenomenon. Meanwhile, we get our kids dressed up and make them wait in line at the mall for over an hour to sit on the lap of a mall Santa for one $60 photo. 

Have you ever heard someone say they are “putting the Christ back into Christmas?” Are we genuinely returning to the roots of how early Christians observed this season, focusing on Christ as the “light of the world!” Or have we shaped Christmas into a holiday that blends faith with cultural traditions, often leaving behind the simplicity and devotion that initially defined it?

Yes, Christmas has its roots in early Christianity — long before America existed. It is traditionally linked to honoring Christ’s birth. However, the Church of Rome designated December 25 as the date for Christmas in the 4th century, centuries before what we now recognize, as the Roman Catholic Church took shape.

It’s the most wonderful time of the year.

The Church of Rome played a key role in shaping Christian traditions. Choosing December 25 likely aligned with Roman festivals like Dies Natalis Solis Invicti (the “Birthday of the Unconquered Sun”) and Saturnalia, a celebration of the god Saturn. Both festivals were held in December, lasting several days and involving decorations, gift-giving, gambling, and feasting. These celebrations focused on light and renewal, themes that connected with Christian beliefs about Jesus. For example, in John 8:12, Jesus declares:

I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.

The winter solstice, occurring just days earlier, also symbolized the shortest day of the year and the gradual return of light. Placing Christ’s birth during this time reflected the Christian message of hope and renewal.

During this era, many Romans converted to Christianity from paganism. Aligning Christian celebrations with familiar dates helped ease this transition. For example, Emperor Aurelian promoted Dies Natalis Solis Invicti on December 25 to unify the empire under a solar deity. By assigning the same date to Christ’s birth, the Church repurposed this cultural event for Christian worship.

The first recorded mention of December 25 as the date of Jesus’ birth appears in a Roman calendar from 336 AD, shortly after Christianity was legalized by the Edict of Milan in 313 AD. This reflects the Church’s efforts to organize its calendar as Christianity gained prominence in the Roman Empire.

Here comes Santa Claus

St. Nicholas, a 4th-century bishop from Myra (modern-day Turkey), became famous for his generosity, care for the poor, and miraculous deeds. His feast day, December 6, became associated with gift-giving, particularly in Europe. Over time, these traditions merged with Christmas celebrations. Dutch settlers brought Sinterklaas to America, where it eventually transformed into Santa Claus.

By the 19th century, writers like Clement Clarke Moore (The Night Before Christmas) and artists like Thomas Nast shaped Santa Claus into the jolly, gift-giving figure we recognize today. While Santa adds cultural charm to Christmas, he also represents the materialism that now defines much of the holiday.

You better watch out…

In early Rome, Christmas was a solemn occasion. Celebrations focused on the incarnation of Christ with scripture readings, hymns, and reflective sermons. Many Christians observed the day with prayer, fasting, and almsgiving. Midnight vigils symbolized Christ’s light breaking into darkness. Gatherings were simple and often held in house churches or, after Constantine legalized Christianity, in public basilicas like St. Peter’s.

Today, however — in my opinion — Christmas in America looks very different. While rooted in Christian traditions, it has become more of a “cultural holiday” defined by consumerism, elaborate decorations, and mounting pressure to create the “perfect” celebration. Traditions like the Christmas tree, brought from Germany, and gift-giving, influenced by European customs, have been reshaped into distinctly American practices. These often distract from the more profound meaning the holiday could hold for Christians.

The cultural focus on Santa Claus, for example, can shift attention from faith and compassion to misplaced hope in a “fictional benefactor” through the lies of a parent. As Christmas grows more extravagant, we — in my opinion — are losing the simplicity and humility of Christ’s birth.

O holy night …

The Bible does not describe celebrations like Christmas or Hanukkah, nor does it provide examples of parents giving gifts to their children during a holiday. However, several Biblical celebrations offer insight into how people honored God. 

For example, Passover is a significant Jewish celebration commanded by God to commemorate Israel’s deliverance from Egypt (Exodus 12:1–30). While gift-giving isn’t part of Passover, families share a symbolic meal, including the lamb, unleavened bread, and bitter herbs.

The Feast of Tabernacles/Booths found in Leviticus 23:33–43 celebrates God’s provision during Israel’s time in the wilderness. Families lived in temporary shelters (booths) to remember their dependence on God. Though gifts are not mentioned, it was a time of joy, Thanksgiving, and sharing in the community.

Another example is the Festival of Purim (Esther 9:20–32), a Jewish celebration of their deliverance from Haman’s plot to destroy the Jews, as recorded in Esther. It includes feasting, exchanging gifts, and giving to people experiencing poverty. But it is important to note that the tradition of gift-giving — often food or drink — is not about indulgence but fostering community and gratitude.

Gift-giving in Scripture is rare and symbolic. The Magi, for example, brought gold, frankincense, and myrrh to honor Jesus as King (Matthew 2:1–12). These gifts represented His kingship, priestly role, and sacrificial death, not indulgence or family traditions.

What father among you, if his son asks for a fish, will instead of a fish give him a serpent? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him! (Luke 11:11–13)

This passage highlights God’s generosity but focuses on meeting needs rather than festive giving.

So this is Christmas… and what have we done?

Hanukkah, the Festival of Lights, is not a Biblical command but is deeply rooted in Jewish history. It commemorates the Maccabean revolt and the temple’s rededication in the 2nd century BCE after foreign rulers had defiled it. The holiday celebrates the miracle of the oil, which, according to Jewish tradition, burned for eight days despite only enough oil for one. This event is detailed in the books of 1 and 2 Maccabees, which are part of the Apocrypha, texts included in some Catholic and Orthodox Bibles but not in the Protestant canon.

While Hanukkah is not directly mentioned in the Hebrew Bible, it is referenced in the New Testament. In John 10:22–23, it says:

At that time the Feast of Dedication took place at Jerusalem. It was winter, and Jesus was walking in the temple, in the colonnade of Solomon.

Many scholars point out that the “Feast of Dedication” mentioned here refers to Hanukkah. I’ve met Christians who are convinced that Hanukkah is represented in the Bible but couldn’t quite remember where. Likely, it’s not because they knew this reference, though… Still, it’s a fascinating connection, as it shows Jesus participating in a Jewish festival that celebrates God’s faithfulness and deliverance.

It’s also important to note that gift-giving during Hanukkah is a later tradition, with families often exchanging small gifts or money (gelt) over the eight nights. While not part of its original observance, these customs have evolved to share joy and foster generosity, much like how Christmas traditions have developed.

Similarly, the Bible does not command or describe Christmas as a celebration. At the same time, Jesus’ birth is central to the faith (Luke 2:1–20); the traditions surrounding Christmas — such as gift-giving — developed over centuries and have no direct scriptural basis.

Have yourself a merry little Christmas.

I don’t have formal credentials or authority, but I want to share my concerns about Christmas. My family has likely heard these thoughts over the years, but I hope sharing them here will encourage you to reflect on your perspectives.

1. No Command From Scripture

First and foremost, Scripture does not command us to celebrate Christmas as we do today — with decorations, gift-giving, and various traditions. While celebrating Christmas is not inherently wrong, should Christians feel pressured to celebrate something God has not instructed?

2. Attempting to Make Christmas Biblical

In my home, we try to align Christmas celebrations with Biblical values. We focus on Advent, give our children only three gifts to reflect the Magi’s gifts to Jesus, and read the Nativity story. While these efforts are commendable, I sometimes wonder if the season still mirrors American culture more than Christian values.

Could our attempts to “redeem” Christmas be misdirected or even dishonoring to Christ if we do something God never asked of us? Sometimes, I wonder if it would be simpler to view Christmas as another cultural holiday, like the Fourth of July or Thanksgiving.

3. Debt Considerations

Should we go into debt to celebrate Christmas or buy gifts for our children, especially if we’re already managing debt? The Bible consistently warns against the dangers of debt and calls us to be good stewards. Sacrificing to live within our means honors God and sets a valuable example for our children.

4. Gift Value Considerations

Even thoughtful gifts may need to be more appreciated. This raises a question: Are material gifts the best way to use our resources? Experiences, for example, can leave more lasting memories than items. Spending $20 on a movie with my daughter might have more value than buying her a toy she forgets in a week.

Another concern is how gift-giving often resembles the “Santa Claus” custom, where people ask for specific gifts. I find it more meaningful when someone gives a practical gift based on what they know about me. For instance, I feel known and appreciated if someone buys me my favorite coffee. That sense of being known is far more meaningful than the gift’s price tag.

5. Making Gifts

Handmade gifts, like cookies or crafts, can ease financial strain while adding a personal touch. These gifts reflect Biblical service principles and use what we have to bless others. Involving our children in baking and delivering cookies to neighbors, friends, or family also teaches them about giving and community.

6. Traditions

Traditions can create lasting memories and foster connection. I encourage reflecting on which traditions bring joy and align with spiritual and family values. Simple practices like lighting Advent candles, reading Scripture, or baking cookies for neighbors can become meaningful. Other ideas, like making a birthday cake for Jesus, singing “Happy Birthday” to Him, or driving around to admire Christmas lights, provide joyful ways to focus on what matters most: love, gratitude, and time together. Revisiting and adapting traditions can help us honor Christ and build connections with loved ones.

7. Quality Time

When we ask family members about their favorite Christmas memories, they almost always recall time spent together — not the gifts they received. Investing in relationships aligns with Biblical principles of love and community, making it a better focus than materialism.

It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas. 

Changing how we celebrate Christmas isn’t easy. The holiday is so deeply woven into American culture and family life that its traditions often go unquestioned. For generations, we’ve been conditioned to see Christmas as a time for extravagant gifts, elaborate decorations, and the pursuit of a “perfect holiday.”

These practices are tied to childhood memories, societal expectations, and family traditions, so questioning them feels risky — like it might take away the joy and magic of the season. Yet, when viewed through a Biblical lens, many of these customs starkly contrast the humility, simplicity, and generosity that nature calls us to live out.

The cultural focus on materialism and self-indulgence — embodied in symbols like Santa Claus and Christmas trees — often distracts us from Christ. This tension between tradition and conviction can leave us feeling torn. Breaking free from the cycle of worldly expectations requires courage, personal reflection, and a willingness to reshape family traditions to reflect Biblical principles, even if it means standing apart from the cultural norm.

Silent night, Holy night

Christmas has meant different things to me at various stages of my life. As a child, it was full of wonder and excitement, but now, as a (perhaps overly analytical) father of four, it feels very different. There was also a transitional period in my early adulthood when I built my faith. As a new Christian in my 20s, I wrestled with whether celebrating Christmas was inherently sinful. I wanted to ensure my participation aligned with my beliefs.

Where am I now? For me, Christmas has become a symbolic ending to the calendar year. How I celebrate — decorating, giving gifts to my children, or embracing the “joy of the season” — often reflects how the year has gone. If the year has been marked by loss, challenges at home, or financial struggles, my level of celebration changes. I suspect many of you can relate to this.

I often think of holidays as mile markers in the year. For example, July 4 is one of my favorites because I fully embrace its purpose — celebrating freedom and unity — and it usually involves relaxing with family, enjoying good weather, BBQs, and fireworks. It’s simple and virtuous. Plus, what an excellent mid-point mile marker for the summer! 

In contrast, the end of the year feels overwhelming. Starting with Halloween, my spare time seems consumed by consumerism. I struggle with gluttony (I love Halloween candy and mashed potatoes at Thanksgiving), and pride, especially during the commercial frenzy of November and December. These sins feel magnified during the holiday season. However, I tend to reset in January with healthier habits, exercise, and another attempt at the “Read the Bible in a Year” challenge. For me, the struggles tied to these sins are most substantial in the year’s final months.

Do you hear what I hear?

As described in this post, perhaps it’s time to reflect on your holiday traditions. Do they align with your understanding of Scripture and your walk with Jesus? If you find yourself struggling with certain sins during the holiday season, consider spending time in prayer. Talk with your family, friends, or spiritual leaders, and develop a plan to address these struggles intentionally this year.

One way to shift your focus might be to reflect on the lyrics of a meaningful Christian Christmas hymn. You may be surprised at what you discover when you pause to understand the words truly. For instance, consider these lines from the well-known hymn Hark! The Herald Angels Sing:

Born that man no more may die
Born to raise the sons of earth
Born to give them second birth

These words are a beautiful reminder of the Gospel. They proclaim the good news of Jesus’ birth, life, death, and resurrection — the ultimate message of hope the world needs this season.

This can feel challenging, though. Skipping door-to-door caroling for figgy pudding or avoiding Frosty the Snowman singalongs is no easy feat — especially when the neighbors across the street are lighting up the block with a spectacle of choreographed lights synced to the Trans-Siberian Orchestra’s Christmas Canon Rock. But maybe that’s the point when we pause to dwell on the lyrics of a hymn like Hark! The Herald Angels Sing. It reminds us that Christmas isn’t about outshining the world’s distractions but reflecting Christ’s humble, life-giving light.

Join the Conversation

How do your Christmas traditions reflect the birth of Christ? Balancing the deeper meaning of Christmas with American cultural traditions can feel challenging, but it’s also an opportunity to focus on what matters most. Are there specific ways you incorporate Christian practices into your celebrations, such as scripture readings, hymns, or acts of kindness? Or perhaps you’re trying something new this year to center your focus on Christ’s light in a season often overshadowed by distractions?

In early Rome, Christmas was marked by simplicity and devotion — scripture readings, prayer, fasting, and almsgiving. How do you find ways to honor these roots in your own home? 

The opinions expressed here are my own and do not reflect the views or positions of my employer.